Children do not have a rebellious phase; adults are the ones who rebel. Many times, what is called the "rebellious phase" is actually children growing up and differentiating themselves, while adults still cling to "you should listen to me." When children change but adults do not keep up, conflicts are labeled as "rebellion." From another perspective: children often resist not rules, but being ignored, controlled, or disrespected. The real discomfort is often felt by adults: authority is challenged, a sense of security is shaken, and the old ways no longer work. If adults are willing to upgrade their communication methods and replace "control" with "understanding + boundaries," many instances of "rebellion" will naturally disappear.
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Children do not have a rebellious phase; adults are the ones who rebel. Many times, what is called the "rebellious phase" is actually children growing up and differentiating themselves, while adults still cling to "you should listen to me." When children change but adults do not keep up, conflicts are labeled as "rebellion." From another perspective: children often resist not rules, but being ignored, controlled, or disrespected. The real discomfort is often felt by adults: authority is challenged, a sense of security is shaken, and the old ways no longer work. If adults are willing to upgrade their communication methods and replace "control" with "understanding + boundaries," many instances of "rebellion" will naturally disappear.